Press J to jump to the feed. I just hope she won't start dating anyone else in the meantime. I couldn't stop thinking about her and couldn't get close to anyone else. But when that person says they might be back it's leaving you hanging on waiting around and you don't feel like you're able to move on. Sue, If I may ask. Plus it burns up some energy and makes you tired so you should be able to sleep better. Think like she's not coming back. You aren't broken, but maybe the timing just isn't right in this case. I'm sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds like you're also have a really hard time of it right now. You accept the breakup Here's her story. I will do my best to stay strong and not contact her. Everything happens for a reason right? I agree with the working out, I am a fit girl and I am starting to try to get into a routine to help with my self esteem and feel good about myself again, I need to learn how to do that for me and you should too. I really don't know what to do anymore. I think she understood. I really like those words. You've gotta have someone who thinks you're worth having as much as you thik they are, the feelings have to be mutual, there has to be a mutual respect and i don't think she had the respect for me that i think i deserved. It never really helps me though because then i want to do some more moping the next day. I certainly find it kinda comforting. This forum helps me! I tried to make her jealous the last time that we were together, mentioning going to USA for Spring Break and that im going to date reguarly now we have broken up. p.s I saw him at work (we are both lifeguards and swimming instructors at one of the city pools) and he looked like ****, and people at work guessed because of his over happiness, and then he looks so sad when no one is around. I know Adam does and I know he will never forget, yours won't either. Hey Guys, Hi NIght Orchid and thanks for your words in this, they sound very experienced and make a lot of sense. I tried to see her more, but she refused. I'm just torn up. If you lay on the cheese, she will most likely disregard it as B.S. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Like you said you don't want to find someone else and then find you're not haveable. I know what you are going through and it is tough, but we will both go through, you are further than me, please tell me it gets better from here (this Tuesday is our 2 year). If you saw your future with someone you'd want to be with them now wouldn't you, you wouldn't say oh well we'll see later on, i'm not sure what i think at the moment. 2. Give back to her what she has given to you in the past: time to figure out where her heart is, and decide if she wants to invest in the relationship. do you ever see them? We know and understand your pain. Digg is the homepage of the internet, featuring the best articles, videos, and original content that the web is talking about right now. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! You sound like you've got the right idea already. Best of luck. I hope not too long. It's got to me so much so that i ended up privately shedding a few tears two or three times. But no, she came to my house 15min later, apologizing, telling me how she made a mistake and that everything will be okay, she will stay with me. He broke up because he wasn't ready for the next stage in life, I'm his girlfriend but he is not ready to commit. Cos you don't wanna be looking back on this in a couple of years and think "i messed up those exams cos of thinking about her i'm still paying the price with this **** job". She listened but told me that she wanted to move on and wanted to stop talking because, if we did, she wouldn't be able to. This way it will help you to start feeling a little bit better slowly. I'm in love but I'm not sure that I'm ready for a relationship, 4 Ways To Tell You Are Not Ready for A Relationship. it will all work out in the end, if we are meant to be with our loves then we will be, but at the moment we need to try to give them space and like you said let them miss us, and trust that they know how they feel. This is your future here, she might not be in it, but you need to pass all those exams to ensure you can get by and get the job you want in future. Then slowly but surely i started eating again. It'll be the best way forward for you. Suicide has been part of my identity ever since puberty — probably when I developed major depressive disorder, which wouldn’t be diagnosed and treated for another five years. Work and focus on YOU and once you’ve healed more and are able to balance your past trauma with current relationships, reach out again. Go for a nice long walk with someone you know, or even on your own. I really feel that she has changed this time and is tired of the emotional pain of me pushing her away. Do the opposite now, be attentive and interested in HER, let her feel that she has some decision power here (NOT about when you want her) and see how things go. If she asks how are you? I was respectful to her, i was always loving when i saw her, but maybe took her for granted a bit. Guess how much it affects you? At the same time, she shouldn't be expected to wait for your healing especially if the process is causing her emotional distress (which it appears to be doing). Don't apologize or plead but do be sincere about your desire to better yourself beginning now (DO NOT say "I'm totally changed." He still won't tell me that he doesn't want to be with me, which is also a plus. Sometimes we give up on losers and move on. Sorry to hear about your situation. Maybe just give yourself half an hour or an hour to have a mope and a think about it. Take it for what it is. Well ok i didn't STOP eating, but i didn't eat enough (as i physically found it really hard to do) and i started losing weight and couldn't do the gym. oh, I see you’re in therapy already. I was with a girl for 3 years. Had an affair with her when she was eleven. It's like a drug man, I feel the need to hear her voice, to hold her in my arms. The thing is, you may have lost her, and that's not your fault necessarily. But it seems to me the more you mope the more you want to mope. God, I still love her. I would do anything to win her heart and make her understand how much she means the world to me and how I want to spend the rest of my life with her. Just be polite and don't play games. If so i'd recommend it, that's what i do. I really feel for you, but you have to make sure you look after yourself. help, By entering this site you declare I'm hoping say in a couple of months i can look back on last month when i last had any form of contact with her and think "yep there's definitely been an improveent". Give yourself the same patience that you are giving her. Will not be doing anything silly in the mean time . Not to mention how this might damage her psychologically if she learned the truth about her conception and why exactly I couldn’t handle the thought of being in her life. She consumes my thoughts!!! We met up last week and i explained to her at which point i started to love her, why i was different before and that i had grown up and now was in a good place. *Remember, your relationship ended because you didn't listen or support her the way she needed you to. 1. I can't advise much on that though as it hasn't happened to me yet! Man i think of her all the time i tell you it's all the time, but i force myself not to contact her. She won't think it's rude or anything, it won't affect your chances of a reconcilliation. Yeah i know exactly what you mean, it's the hardest thing i've ever had to go through too. This was about 10 days worth of unproductive, argumentative, text messages that had followed an original text from me asking her to give me a straight "no" if she didn't want me to come down to see her in the new year (as we'd discussed a month previous to this, she said she was going to think about it, but during that following month there was no contact). Let yourself imagine for a moment a scenario where you watched a sappy romance movie or heard your friend kissing butt to his GF. This girl was madly in love with me and I never thought she would end it. I have since realised you cant date people because u just think of ur ex!! What do you do in your free time? My boyfriend of 4 years decided that he wasn't happy in our ... GF decided to end relationship about a month ago. What is your reaction? Think you'd like it to from the way you're sounding. If she rings you then just talk for a little while, be pleasant, don't talk about what happened before, focus on the present, but let her come to you. Going crazy and would do anything. Moreover the family couldn't share the grief with relatives due to the distancing. Just yesterday I noticed that she deleted me from her facebook. I lost … Why should you be his fall back? I am going to continue to push myself to stay occupied and not have any contact, our friends are doing a really good job of keeping both of us occupied apart from one another (I think more so me than him because none of them think he made the right choice). Ah! If ever you feel really horrible and don't know what to do with yourself, come on here and vent. You need her to think you're ok without her. No i don't ever see her, she lives a long way away (that was the main problem in why our relationship broke down). I will always love her and don't want to lose hope. Not an open relationship. Is this a good idea, or just keep up with the NC? Can you get down the gym? Yep, you're right, you must try to avoid moping. But in my experience if a girl says "i need space" then give it her no question. Keep up the gym too. Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. I understand how difficult it must be for you right now, replaying all of the different "what if" scenarios in your head. An expert weighs in on how to try it safely. But i think at that stage there was still hope. It is hard. I knew she had moved on, and that is when I started to really regret what I did because I was the one who wouldn’t commit to her when she was ready and great. Why are you studying your ego and how things look and come across? This will explain it best. This is the hardest thing I've ever experienced in my life and I appreciate your support man! Not ready to commit but happy with the benefits. attracted, respectful of you, falling back in love with you) when she’s with you or interacting with you, the less she’ll keep focusing on the fact that you wouldn’t commit to her in the past. The last time i saw her was actually about 4 1/2 months ago, but we broke up 7 months ago. Also, went to bed with my mother on my 18th birthday. But of course that was not seen as a good idea either. I love you, but I'm not ready for a relationship? I really want to delve into this thread...would you mind if I took about fifteen minutes or so to get up to speed on the various posts on this thread? If she doesn't then you're on your way to slowly recovering. Understand that men deal with loss differently than women. I hope that is of some help? It happens. He was until a little while ago where he started taking us and me for granted, he has told me that he isn't in the right state right now to give me what I deserve, which makes me happy that he knows that. I absolutely love my husband and believe he is my soulmate. You've gotta do the same. I'm really really struggling with the idea that she will most probably never be in my life again and knowing that I never got the chance to show her the full and real man that I am. I was seeing my ex for 2.5 years aswell. I'm in the same boat, and I have had a history of doing the same thing due to pretty rough trauma in the past. My girlfriend broke up with me, said she wasn't ready for a relationship. The only thing that has now improved my attitude slightly is that i went for a crazy burst on the rowing machine down the gym, although that did seem to give me some sort of disturbind tracheal spasm?! I just want to know about this text message. I could just tell by the look in her eyes she didn't feel the same anymore. You're spot on - love is definitely like a drug. Have fun and when you aren't looking for it, love will come. I took it like a man, was non needy and made sure that we ended on good terms. He could have known this little girl when she was just a kid. I guess people do sometimes have a period of doubt. In the meantime, it's driving me crazy to think of her with other people. For the last year i have had so much on with my career and life i neglected her and pushed her away, over and over again. As stupid as this may sound, this just put me into tears all over again. This guy really likes me But not ready to commit. Then i talked to her again and BAM back to not eating enough, but this time not so bad. I think that because it wasn't like she asked you a question, she just said "i know you'll do well". New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the relationship_advice community, Continue browsing in r/relationship_advice. But she text me a nice text saying "Thanks so much for the meal, i know you'll do well" It really helps! Holidays, events and birthdays are EXCELLENT ways to drop in and keep contact without looking like you're in it for you. You have to show her that if she rejected you, you lost no sleep over it and you couldn’t really care less. i shouldn't have to be making all the effort to sort out a relationship, i don't deserve that. You’re in therapy and working towards loving yourself and all of your own faults and traumas of the past. I took her off my msn, and i have just noticed that she has taken me off hers. Also she had too much work to do. I would definitely keep up the no contact with him. But is the viral treadmill workout safe? Take care. She already knows so it's not going to be to your advantage to tell her again. You just weren't ready to be the man she wanted at that time. After 2 years she moved away and it became long distance. So yep don't ring her to tell her you love her. All I get is excuses. But I won't! Basically everything i suggested was met with "that's not a good idea" and eventually it just totally **** me off. Go ahead and if you're seeing her (face to face is best) or in a personal letter if there in NC, and let her know what you've just articulated: You're better than that. Also I was wondering how long has it been since you've heard from your ex's? Work's been terrible, i've barely slept (5 hours the last 3 nights, waking up at 5am every one of those), and i haven't been able to get her off my mind as much as i have tried. At all. Don't try to conjour up any reasons why you need to contact her cos you don't need to. Sorry it has taken me a while to respond--these threads just get buried by new ones so quickly! Kasdan: And he was forty-two. I know im supposed to give it at least a months window before contact. But I try to stay strong, even If I have my moments of weakness and still cry about it. We'd very rarely had chance to spend so much time together as that so i booked the time off work and asked her in a really nice email. You're doing good though to keep fighting, you have the right attitude. Then one day i did cook myself a proper nice meal and i thought "this is a step forward" and i started eating better. Lucas: He hasn't seen her in twelve years. Now I Want Her Back. The 12-3-30 workout went viral after YouTube personality Lauren Giraldo lost 30 pounds. Its been nearly a week now since we spoke to each other but i'm really nervous. Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. is a relationship advice expert, frequent guest psychologist on The Today Show and the creator of a globally available dating coach and Love Mentor® program. Anyway, what's done is done, it's too late now. Any exercise though will do, it doesn't have to be the gym. So now i'm starting again getting back into the gym and i'm feeling good about it. Even up to a few weeks ago we were still talking about being together, going on holiday etc but we argued a bit, i acted like an idiot and she broke it off. I'm struggling hard to do my daily stuff, even though I know deep down sitting down mopping will get me no where! For the first time, with any girl, i was ready to properly commit and make things work. I know it's tough to function properly, but you have to at the very least make yourself get through your studies. A young woman's comment posted on Reddit, in which she describes the horrific toll COVID-19 has taken on her family, is going viral across the internet. Sign He Won’t Commit #7: It Will Always Be About the Sex You should know this: men commit to women when they want more than just sex from a relationship . You cannot love anyone full until you love yourself. You just have to accept it's gonna feel **** for maybe quite a while, but trust me it will improve. I think it's much fairer to say either "i want to be with you" or "i don't want to be with you". She won't want you constantly badgering her. I have been experiencing him break up and make up for 8 years now. Firstly though, i'll apologise if it's a bit garbled and mixed up - i've had such a **** couple of days these 2 days. I was going to go live with her at that point, but she didn't want me to. Keep up the avoidance of contact as it is no help. All I can advise today is to not spend time making her jealous or playing games to see where her affections lie. I absolutely think that it is fine to let her know how you feel about her. Ugh, I don't know, it will hurt less over time, it has only been one week, I am young only going to be 21 this year I'm sure someone else will show interest eventually. I was dating my ex for 2.5 years when she decided to end the relationship back in november. I wish now i just hadn't even bothered asking her and then just let her contact me if she wanted to see me. Ok you'll still have her there in the back of your mind all day long and you'll have trouble sleeping, i am just the same, but you have to do stuff to keep it at the back of your mind and it will start to get easier. Believe me when I say this, I’m currently in the same situation and I’m the girl who was broken up with. 2. Of course, a bunch of rapists went over to tell their stories. I also think of her down the gym, it doesn't go away there. I even had to leave work early today by taking some lieu time cos i was so physically and emotionally shattered. So we don’t put the dating tag on it until we get all that out of our system. I might have over done it and pushed her away. You just have to say right f**k it i know i'll be thinking about her, but i'm gonna get this piece of work done cos i have to, it's my life this and i'm allowing her to mess it up. So take it from me the best thing to do for you is to continue to not be in touch with her. I said "look i don't want you to ring me up one day and say guess what i've got engaged, which is something you would be quite happy to say/hear if you were normal friends with someone, so we can't be". I'm desperate and would really appreciate help. Boyfriend broke up with me because he wasn't ready for commitment. At least if doing some moping meant no moping the next day you could probably argue the case for moping. You on the other hand have been given this glimmer of hope. he said he wants me to approach him and talk confidently and not feel negative about myself but when i try to go up to him it feels like he wants to walk away. However, that doesn't mean that she is ready to date you again. Sad but true, and that just means he doesn’t know what love is all about. This is the inner confidence that I talk about a lot! Hi regrets just saw your tread and as a caring human being would like to share my opinion? It seems to me he's keeping you there at arms length so that he can go off and play around with other girls til his heart's content and then if he gets bored or realises he's made a mistake then he knows you're there. Yet, I am no less confused and still do not know if I want to commit to her as a partner, or just as a friend, or if it’s best to just leave it alone and not attempt to reconnect. It has been a week with no contact. And keep some little hope. And it is OK to be at different places in life. He said he was conflicted and couldn’t leave her. Don't say "lets be friends," but leave room for communication in the future, like "would it be alright if i call you next week? I wish id just text back X , or something similar, "Was gd to see you last week, it was the right decision Speak soon x 27. You see for me, I think this has become slightly easier because, even though it's not gone the way i wanted it to, at least i'm 99.9% sure she's not going to be coming back. A guy might not commit to a girl because he has built a mountain of wealth and he doesn’t love her enough to bring her along for the ride. The way I see it now, If ever our paths happen to cross in the futur I need to be the best man I can be. Do you think i have done enough to let her know how i feel, and is a freeze out the best way forward. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. It absolutely kills me to think this, thinking about all the stuff you were looking forward to doing and that now it'll never happen. And when you do and you can look back and think well that **** me up, but at least i didn't mess up my degree then you'll feel good about it. As people grappled with the news about Bourdain, celebrities took to Twitter to share tributes about the celebrity chef and post the number of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. This doesn't mean putting your life on hold, but let her know that there is always room in your heart for her if she wishes to come back. *For the record, if a guy is like stringing along all these other girls then he’s a douche bag for sure, but if its that 4am sesh after the bar that no … I am going through the same thing right now only my boyfriend is the one who is having the life problems, I don't know what to do, he is my first love and I miss him so much, I have always wanted what we had and now it is gone, he gives me hope that it will be back but he doesn't know how long it will take him. And it certaintly won't help you get him back. But she was completely different. It's ok to have a bit of a mope every now and again i reckon, but don't let it dominate your day to the extent that you aren't doing what you need to get done. Do I end my 9 year relationship or am I just crazy? How I wish I had a time machine to fix things. I'm not sure if you've already sent a reply to her text, but if you haven't then i wouldn't. It's good to know you're not the only one going through this **** experience isn't it? you weren't ready to commit and you didn't give the relationship the time you needed to Help! I break down all the time, and I too can't focus on my school work, I know that it is important but I feel so lost and alone, I hate being alone and I hate that I have lost my best friend. Louis is suffering from a deep fear of engulfment. First, I totally get where you are coming from. She already knows it so no need to tell her again. Good night. :/. You have to make those things your priorities. Thanks downbeat, Im concerned that at this stage, if it looks like im purposely doing something she will be less attracted to me as it looks petty that i didnt reply. The main bit of advice though - avoid the temptation to contact! In your case it's come at a really bad time with all your studying, but you have to do this for yourself cos nobody else is going to do it for you. So esentially it's like he's got you there as a fall back. She said she didn't think it was a good idea. Everytime i contacted her i didn't get told what i wanted to hear, i'd heard her voice, i thought of her more and i went back to square one being miserable. Many couldn't even see or touch the person for the last time. speak soon x" ( im going next week ). Dr. Diana is also the best-selling author of the acclaimed best-selling relationship and dating book, “Love in 90 Days”. Any input on this jayspop? That feeling haunted me through a life-threatening drug addiction, into a life of recovery, and sometimes still does. He … I really need help. You're still young, you have PLENTY of time. That's exacly my situation. Try to keep yourself together, i know it's seriously tough, but you have to do it. Long story short, I have a minor issue with alcohol, where I lose… When i was in this kinda limbo position but with still some hope i went down the gym regularly, i ate fine and i put on some bulk. I stayed in bed doing nothing for a good 4-5 weeks and trust me it gets your absolutely no where. Being a man ***** so much sometimes, we cant help but mess these things up. Girlfriend broke up with because I wasn't ready to commit on a deeper level. I lift weights and i'm thinking about her, but i'm also thinking about making sure i lift those **** weights cos that is one thing i can achieve and get something out of. I even have trouble concentrating at school and it's my last semester before getting my bachelors degree. It's constant and you can never escape it, it only starts going with time (unless you reconcile). then possibly you could reply that you're ok or something else. I'm just going to be as straightforward as possible. You just don't want to commit." You must wait for her to contact you cos if you contact her and she doesn't want to talk or hear from you it'll only push her away. my ex tells me he doesnt want to get back together but he tries to talk to me often and gets upset because he thinks i dont want to talk to him. Logically there must surely be at least a few other people out there who we would be just as happy with and maybe even more so, even if it doesn't seem believable at the mo. However, this must be done with FINESSE.This is absolutely the most important factor in dealing with your ex. Like i said before, get on with your life and aim to be happy on your own (or maybe eventually with someone else), and if she comes back it's just a bonus. I never got to know her, just acted like an idiot. Need help with your relationship? I just wasn't in right place in my life when we met. When something you enjoy so much is suddenly taken away and then there's no prospect of getting it again you long for it. So that means no contact whatsoever til she contacts you, none at all, no excuses. So I'm going to give him a month and probably even three months break to make sure he knows how much I'm worth. I made a mistake last night and went to a club she goes to. So it doesn't require a response or justify it in my opinion. Is it definitely not a good idea to start building up trust with her through contact, as thats the thing that i neglected in the first place? My ex is abusing me psychologicaly! The point is that everyone, no matter how bright and shiny their lives may look on the outside, struggles with these issues. It was just where my friends were heading that night. Now she's twenty-two. I wouldn't worry what she'll think if you don't reply. Raising her voice, Aimee said "Now it's your career, before it was your mother's health, before that you weren't ready. We will all get through this, we don't know what the future holds so we shouldn't dwell on it, easier said than done, but enjoy what you have right now, we need to rediscover ourselves and do things that make us happy, be selfish, our ex's are . This story comes from Reddit user funny-chubby-awesome: "My high school best friend, let's call her Hillary, approached me about masturbation. She was literally deciding between me and him for a week until I couldn't take it anymore and lost my shit and dumped her. It was annoying wasn't it? Hey guys, They're your priorities ok. Look forward to reading your post It doesn't. Eventually even if she doesn't come back you'll find someone else won't you, you might not think it now, but the chances are very good that you will. This girl has been obsessed with me for 3 years now, i think she has just run out of steam. Or should i give it a month, two months? Not some depressed, needy, out of shape man. But at the same time, even if I told again and again how much I love her and want to commit to her, I feel like I need to tell her again. I regret all of that last period of contact though, totally regret it. I dunno if she'll come back, maybe she will, maybe she won't. Just keep at it. It is definitely your responsibility for sure, but you aren't at fault for your trauma. So instead of not saying a straight "no" she replied with a long text that said at the end "...but i hope we can be friends" which i then sent a reply about why i didn't want to be friends with her as i felt like she'd betrayed me, followed by a conversation which actually wasn't too bad, but ended up with her crying saying to me "we can be friends if you want us to be", but i explained i couldn't as i needed to get past this now and that i didn't want to be hearing stuff about her as it would hurt me. Since I ahve barely been going and eating. Put on a funny movie or something like that. I still wake up in the morning really early thinking about her, it's normal, just don't worry about it. 4.) The only reason she wont get back with me is that she thinks im going to hurt her, which im not. And then try and meet up with her, being a new confident, attractive person. Ok, so REGRETS, i think you're obviously feeling pretty desperate at the moment. 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